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Sexistic colleagues? This is how women can defend themselves

There is the colleague, who interferes with you during a meeting. The one who teaches one despite half-knowledge - and another who sells his own ideas as his own. Many women will know these situations from their daily work. "New York Times" columnist Jessica Bennett describes in her new book "Feminist Fight Club" how women can deal with this kind of "microsexism". By joining forces with other women instead of seeing them as a competition. Only in this way could they attack the "enemy," as Bennett calls the men striking.

The 34-year-old has with her idea prominent fans. It is considered the Protegé of Sheryl Sandberg, the number two at Facebook. Sandberg admits in Instagram: "I am proud to have a membership card of the Feminist Fight Club."

With her typologies and tips Bennett wants to sharpen the awareness of sexism - in women and men.

Type 1: The Manterrupter

He does not let women talk. Prominent example: Donald Trump. The Republican presidential candidate fell into his Democratic counterpart Hillary Clinton 51 times in the first TV-duel 51 times. She interrupted him 17 times. This happens in meetings, writes Bennett. Studies show that men fall twice as often as they are different.

What you can do about it:

Discussions: When a man intervenes, you should proceed unperturbed. At the same time you can give him a look, which means "Do not dare interrupt me."

Answer: Tell the troublemaker directly: "I'm not finished yet. Give me another second. "

Together: If a woman wants to ask a question but does not speak, you can address her directly: "What do you think, Sabrina?"

Leaning forward: the body gives you authority.

Type 2: The Ideendieb

He praises the work of others. Studies show that, in mixed working groups, men tend to receive the laurels for joint work.

What you can do about it:

Strong words: Present ideas confidently and take responsibility for the content. "Ähms", "Sorrys" or baby language are taboo.

Thanks: Anyway, anybody trying to present your idea as that will bring back the laurels. For example: "I'm glad you find my idea good and share my assessment. That's exactly what I meant. "

Wingman: Find yourself complicit, best male. Make the compliment out that he nods approvingly when you speak. If someone else wants to steal your ideas, he can jump in: "Exactly, as Jessica said it."

E-mail: Send a summary e-mail to the most important people after a meeting. This is how you characterize a presented idea as yours - black on white.

 

 

Type 3: The Mansplainer

The Mansplainer is smarter than you. That's what he thinks at least. He explains the world to you in a patronizing, often condescending way. Often, too, without asking him. Women who just want to present something are complemented in the style of "I've been here a bit longer than you", "You can not have any idea about it" or "Listen to me and you'll be successful."

What you can do about it:

Instruct him that the Manplainer often does not realize that he will not tell you things you have not asked for. Someone, who plays constantly as a manspooler, has usually learned this role behavior over many years and has copied it from his professional role models. Here you must quickly create a different consciousness, so that the pattern of behavior does not continue forever.

Ignore: Except the man is an expert in the corresponding field, he should rather keep the flap than you are to instruct. Do not be grateful for timidity.


Type 4: The Degradator

This colleague makes you his secretary. He asks if you could take notes in a meeting, puts you in CC important emails, or asks you to bring coffee for a customer.

What you can do about it:

Stupid: If you ask someone to cook coffee, you say, "I'd like to, if only I knew how." If someone sends you to the photocopier, the announcement says: "I've broken the copier so often Should not touch the machine. "

Directness: Ask someone to write, you say directly that you do not want that. To put it in a passive role, you would like to actively participate.

Suggest an alternative: say, "I just can not, but my colleague beat is great at making notes."

No volunteer work: According to studies, women are more likely to take on administrative tasks, but they are also more likely to volunteer for this. Stop it.

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